As Cambria and Julia continue to grow, it’s so exciting to watch their individual personalities begin to take shape. I find myself wondering what they are going to be like at different stages… what will they each enjoy doing, what foods will they each like, how will they each interact with people, what will they each excel at, how will they each deal with different circumstances. The list goes on.
What struck me the other day is I’ve never pondered these things with an overlay of ‘well, they are adopted so they are bound to be different from Scott and me, and our three other children.’ It’s the age-old nature vs. nurture.
People who have adopted, experiencing first-hand, have told me that there is a strong nature component to personalities… the whole family will enjoy something except for the adopted child. Maybe there is some truth to that, particularly depending on how old the child was when he or she joined their family… our girls were little droplets of water with a tiny number of cells. However, we see a combination of similarities but also differences among even our three older children.
They all love sports, but for very different reasons and it shows in the sports they have each chosen to play. Our oldest loves softball, it’s a perfect mix of team sport and plenty of time on the bench to socialize while her team is at bat. Our middle child loves soccer… not a lot of talking, just running, running, running with teamwork played out with the feet. And the youngest loves a mix of sports, just like his dad did. It’s all about mastering something new.
Maybe Cambria and Julia will select a similar or different sport, maybe they’ll choose music… that not a one of us has but would be lovely… maybe they’ll choose dance or debate.
I think what we’ve concluded is, when there are differences with our two youngest children we won’t immediately ascribe them to the manner in which they were brought into this world. We will let them know they can pursue anything they’d like and become anyone they want to be, and we will embrace them for that.
The family is already demonstrating that mindset… it’s often been chuckled in the living room or at the kitchen table regarding something the babies have done… “just like a LaSorsa!” or “they definitely have the LaSorsa genes!” Furthermore, we’re not only excited to teach them but also to learn from our little babies in return… just like Scott and I have learned so much from our first three children. The only thing I pray for is that they develop a heart for Christ, include their faith in everything they do, and develop fully all the gifts and talents God has given them so they may share them with others.
One thing’s for sure though, we definitely have two more LaSorsa fish in the family!!
1 Corinthians 12: 4-6 There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. 5 There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. 6 There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work.